Monday, July 23, 2012

This heat will be the end of me.

I am sure of it. 
I am not the only one.
Something happens to Toddler T when the temperature reaches 95+.
He can't walk.
He can't play.
He can't stand to be outside.

It's true... He says, "Mommy, carry me. It's so hot my legs don't work."
He turns beet red and begins to sweat profusely.
He's even walked out of my friends' backyards and attempted to let himself in through their patio doors, exclaiming.. "It's too hot. I'm all done playing outside."

Want to know a secret?  I'm totally with him.

I am not a heatwave kind of girl. The exception to this is if I am in a sand chair, with my feet in the edge of the ocean with a nice drink in my hand. Then I can handle about 12+ hours of the sun. But, walking around and attempting to act like being at a park in the full sun is a good idea, is not for me.

(As a side note, the TV is on right now. The weather clip for the 11pm news just came on and our weatherman just warned of triple digit temperatures headed our way.) 


In other news (so as not to sound like an 88 year old grandmother). Toddler T had his 3 year old checkup last week. All was great, except the strangest interaction with the nurse. She brought us back to the exam room and I put Toddler T up on the table. Without warning or confirmation from me, the nurse looked right at him and in her best sing-songy, high-pitched voice asked Toddler T if he was so excited for his baby to come. I.almost.died.  He simply looked at her with a blank stare. I said "No." She looked at me like I was a crazy lady and I stammered.. "Yes, you are correct. But we haven't made him aware." She resumed looking at me like I was a crazy lady.

I get it. In most instances, siblings are told of a new baby around the time the the general public is made aware of this news. But our circumstances were different. I've already had two losses and spent 18 months caught up in the world of secondary infertility.  Not to mention, 9 months is a looooooong time.  I happen to have a very inquisitive child and I could not imagine him having to process a sibling for so long. To put it into perspective, on Wednesday, I told him we were going to a birthday party on Sunday. He woke up every morning and after every nap and asked me if it was time to go to the birthday party. I simply couldn't imagine dealing with that level of enthusiasm when I was slowly coming to terms with the fact that this might just work out.

So, no. He doesn't know. Our plan is to tell him around 20 weeks and give him the big picture.  I ran this by his doctor and he thought it was a fine idea. 

Pregnancy-wise, I will go for blood work tomorrow morning. This will be the blood work portion of the Nuchal Translucency Screening. Since I opted for the CVS and that did not rule out spina bifida, this blood work will help to tell us our odds. I am feeling confidant, since we had such a low risk with Toddler T and the CVS came back all clear.  Then back to the OB next week for my 16 week checkup at 17 weeks 4 days.  (I'm a little off on synching my appointments with my actual weeks.)

Until then, I will be hiding out in the air conditioning or at the kiddie pool of the YMCA. 


  1. I am right there with ya! It's been unbearable. We try to get out super early before you can cook an egg on the ground. I would be the same way as fact I probably would have tackled the doc as she uttered the words!

  2. I can understand your hesitation to tell him about the pregnancy - it's always kind of unsettling to come across people who haven't experienced infertility or loss and how vastly different their worldview can be. However, that wouldn't explain how one might put up with the constant toddler questions, even in a best-case scenario! Stay cool...

  3. The heat is horrible...good luck to you and Toddler T staying cool and comfy!

  4. Oh that sounds hot... I completely melt in the heat too :( I'm with you on the idea of not saying anything until around 20weeks and will be doing that too if/when we get pregnant... to hard to 'unexplain'... you are certainly not a crazy lady ! Love to you and bub xoxo

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